Where Have all the Good Men Gone?

Dear So-Called ‘Nice-Guy’,

It was fun while it lasted. We only went out a few times but the more I got to know you the less connection I felt. That initial spark was gone. Despite the fact that you showed many qualities I looked for in a partner, there was still something lacking.

At first, I thought that it was because of my expectations – you didn’t go to college or university (and it was secretly bugging me).But the fact that I have a Master’s Degree and you’re there like ‘I like photography’ and ‘I might want to go into construction’ bothered the hell out of me. I know that it should not have been a reason and that having a degree of some sort shouldn’t matter; people are smart with or without higher education.  The more I thought about you; the more I realized that you were not the right guy for me – but I just couldn’t figure out why.

But now I do. Or rather, you showed me why.

There were days where I was just feeling so anti-social I didn’t want to talk to anyone. On those days I just couldn’t bring myself to dress up, go out, and see you. I don’t think you really understood that. You kind of brushed it off as me trying to blow you off.

Then you sent me this:

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It felt like you were more invested emotionally than I was. This wasn’t something I was ready for. So I was honest and told you just that.

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You didn’t seem to take this very lightly. You showed a side of you that was quite interesting to say the least. My gut feeling about you was right – it just wasn’t right about the reason why.

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I ignored your message. I wasn’t planning on replying. All you wanted out of me was sex apparently. The way you spoke when we met made me think that your intentions were different. Then this happened:

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I laughed pretty hard at this one. Did you think that I wouldn’t send it to all my friends for them to judge you? You wanted a reaction out of me but I wasn’t about to give that to you. Instead, you gave me pretty good writing material.

So here it is ‘nice-guy’.

Correct me if I’m wrong but you’re probably not used to being rejected – I’m assuming here ‘cause you’re pretty and all. Or you could just be one of those guys who get rejected more often than not. You may think that being a ‘nice-guy’ gets you nowhere and that girls just want to date ‘assholes’ or whatever.

Here’s some advice: stop whining. For one, women do not owe you a damn thing. Second, If you’re going to be that self pitying then you have deeper issues that need to be examined. If you think you are unappealing because you’re a ‘nice-guy,’ then you need to take a hard look at yourself and think about the type of person you are.

Sincerely,
That Adorable Girl in Overalls

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Quick Blog Update

Hello lovelies,

I just wanted to fill you in on some blog updates. I am done with my thirty-one day beginner blog challenge. I had a lot of fun writing each post, some a little more than others but that’s pretty normal I guess. You can probably guess which posts were more forced than others…  Anyways! Writing used to feel like a chore when I was in school. I had no motivation to do anything outside of school work. Now that I am almost done, and have more free time to write about the things I want to write about. I’m more motivated and frankly, it’s a lot more fun.  I am looking for new, inspirational, and exciting challenges to try. I’d also love it if you gave me ideas, and prompts that you’d like to see me attempts. I’m open to just about any suggestion.

See you around,

B

 

 

 

Shit I want to do before I die

#29: Top things on my Bucket list – updated

  1. Be a leader in my field.
  2. Be a tourist in my own city.
  3. Climb a fucking tree (to the top).
  4. Create a piece of art and sell it.
  5. Dive/jump off the high dive board.
  6. Do a push-up handstand – without assistance.
  7. Do a themed run.
  8. Do more feminist-y things
  9. Drive a seadoo. 
  10. Drive a snowmobile.
  11. Dye some of my hair an unnatural color.
  12.  Eat alone at a restaurant.
  13. Fall in love.
  14. Find a new hobby
  15. Find treasure with a metal detector.
  16. Fly first class.
  17. Get my abs back.
  18. Go Bungee Jumping.
  19. Go cliff diving.
  20.  Go ‘ghost hunting’ with friends.
  21. Go on a Hot Air Balloon Ride.
  22. Go on More than one Road Trip.
  23. Go Scuba Diving.
  24.  Go Sky diving.
  25. Go to a bonfire/build one.
  26. Go to Movies by myself.
  27. Go wine tasting.
  28. Graffiti something.
  29. Have my blog recognized.
  30. Host a game night (make it 1920s themed).
  31. Knit a scarf.
  32. Learn something new and be good at it.
  33. Learn to play poker like a champ.
  34. Learn to skateboard.
  35. Master a new language.
  36. Meet Someone Famous.
  37. Paint something at Paint Nite.
  38. Party in a forest.
  39. Plant a tree.
  40. Play a game of paintball.
  41. Race a go-kart again.
  42. Read a banned book.
  43. Read a hundred books in a year.
  44. Ride a bike across the city.
  45. Ride a camel.
  46. Ride a Horse and Carriage.
  47. Ride a Zip line.
  48. Road-trip across Canada.
  49. Survive my five to six years as PhD candidate.
  50. Swim in a Pool at night filled with glow sticks.
  51. Take a self-defense class.
  52. Take a train across a country.
  53. TESL (Teaching English as a Second Language) certificate.
  54. Throw a themed party.
  55. Unplug for a week.
  56. Visit the seven wonders of the world.
  57. Walk a Suspension Bridge.
  58. White Water Rafting.
  59. Write my name on wet cement.
  60. Continue being a bad-ass queen.
  61.  

The Future

#20: Where do you want to be in 10 years?

I ask myself this all the time. Sort of. Well, it’s more like:

What the fuck am I doing with my life?
Where the fuck am I going to be in the near/late future?

Instead of telling you the typical overall hopes and dreams thing, I’m going to make it slightly more realistic and break it down in list-form (because I love lists). Similar to my previous bucket list list, these are the ten things I hope to accomplish (that are feasible) within the next ten or so years.

  1. TESL (Teaching English as a Second Language) certificate
  2. Visit family in Lebanon.
  3. Travel to more than 5 places in the world.
  4. Survive my five to six years as  PhD candidate.
  5. Move out of my parents house and live alone or with friends.
  6. Find a stable job – that I actually like.
  7. Road-trip across Canada.
  8. Read a hundred books in a year.
  9. Start thinking about starting a family/getting married/buying a house.
  10. Continue working my ass off to earn everything that I’ve ever wanted (‘Cause you know, some of us don’t just get handed stuff that easily).

 

 

Fear

#18 What am I afraid of?

I tend to take my time when it comes to answering questions like these.

In a few words, I find questions about love, fear, death and life quite difficult to answer.

Death has always been difficult for me. I’ve a few  people I’ve loved over the years but I was always too young to understand what it really meant. I’ve never been properly equipped to deal with it. Nor do I think I’m capable of dealing with it now.

When someone I know has a family member or friend that passed away, I do this thing where I try not to let it get to me. I feel like this blob who’s just there to offer a hug and my condolences without really understanding what the death of this person means to them. I tell them that they are in a better place, that they’re happier in heaven, that I’ll say a prayer for them that… I understand how they must feel.

But I don’t.

Fear?

I’m not afraid to die.
I’m afraid to love.

I’m afraid to lose someone I love.

 

 

Quotes Galore

#13 Favorite Quote(s)

Dear wonderful followers,

I apologize for not posting more often. This is a very busy time of year for me, I promise to make more of an effort.

So here are some of my most favorite quotes:

There is no such thing as a moral or an immoral book. Books are well written, or badly written. That is all…”
 Oscar Wilde

“And though she be but little, she is fierce…”
William Shakespeare

“The artist is the creator of beautiful things. To reveal art and conceal the artist is art’s    aim…”
Oscar Wilde

“I just think it’s so weird that women make individual choices and then absolute strangers think they can have all kinds of opinions about them…”
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

“Of course I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in…”
–  Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

“I want more — much more — than a band-aid.  I want a revolution in the hills and towns, among the trees, I still call home…”
– Eli Clare

Love,

Bee

Crush

Day 10: 1st Celebrity Crush

Hmm… it took me a while to remember who this was.

Behold: Chad Michael Murray. My first real celebrity crush.

No… I don’t count cartoon men as crushes. If I did, then Aladdin would be my first.

Nonetheless, as a teen I was absolutely obsessed with Chad Michael Murray. I had posters of him and other hot celebs, but lots of him, that covered my walls.  I mean look at him, isn’t he just so cute?

Okay, okay maybe this crush is a little silly. A lot of my friends really liked him too. I bet lots of people still do. He did look really good in that Agent Carter film…