Dear So-Called ‘Nice-Guy’,
It was fun while it lasted. We only went out a few times but the more I got to know you the less connection I felt. That initial spark was gone. Despite the fact that you showed many qualities I looked for in a partner, there was still something lacking.
At first, I thought that it was because of my expectations – you didn’t go to college or university (and it was secretly bugging me).But the fact that I have a Master’s Degree and you’re there like ‘I like photography’ and ‘I might want to go into construction’ bothered the hell out of me. I know that it should not have been a reason and that having a degree of some sort shouldn’t matter; people are smart with or without higher education. The more I thought about you; the more I realized that you were not the right guy for me – but I just couldn’t figure out why.
But now I do. Or rather, you showed me why.
There were days where I was just feeling so anti-social I didn’t want to talk to anyone. On those days I just couldn’t bring myself to dress up, go out, and see you. I don’t think you really understood that. You kind of brushed it off as me trying to blow you off.
Then you sent me this:
It felt like you were more invested emotionally than I was. This wasn’t something I was ready for. So I was honest and told you just that.
You didn’t seem to take this very lightly. You showed a side of you that was quite interesting to say the least. My gut feeling about you was right – it just wasn’t right about the reason why.
I ignored your message. I wasn’t planning on replying. All you wanted out of me was sex apparently. The way you spoke when we met made me think that your intentions were different. Then this happened:
I laughed pretty hard at this one. Did you think that I wouldn’t send it to all my friends for them to judge you? You wanted a reaction out of me but I wasn’t about to give that to you. Instead, you gave me pretty good writing material.
So here it is ‘nice-guy’.
Correct me if I’m wrong but you’re probably not used to being rejected – I’m assuming here ‘cause you’re pretty and all. Or you could just be one of those guys who get rejected more often than not. You may think that being a ‘nice-guy’ gets you nowhere and that girls just want to date ‘assholes’ or whatever.
Here’s some advice: stop whining. For one, women do not owe you a damn thing. Second, If you’re going to be that self pitying then you have deeper issues that need to be examined. If you think you are unappealing because you’re a ‘nice-guy,’ then you need to take a hard look at yourself and think about the type of person you are.
That Adorable Girl in Overalls